DARK Video - There is great value in challenges to the empires of our selves. But we hate them when they come. Anyone who says they love being tested is either a fool or a liar.
We hate being tested when we see it as one of futility, or as a consequence for something we don't approve of. But when we see the purpose in being tested, which is to grow in the spiritual confidence of faith as an outcome of trusting God, we gain sight to see even (especially even) in the midst of a dark time.
Two things are required to gain spiritual maturity. The first is obvious: we must suffer some extraneous event or situation that pushes our trust into the nether regions. It would not be faith otherwise if we weren't tested. There is no use resenting the test, because it is the very thing God uses as a pre-requisite to spiritual growth.
Whether we resent the test or we accept it determines the second thing: where we respond as if the test is just a test, and we are eager to please God in faithfulness, we earn the stripes on spiritual maturity on the journey toward the perfection of spiritual progress (for there is no such thing as spiritual perfection this side of eternity).